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Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments

pVIII Episcopalian Baton Rouge, parents funeral directors and licensed embalmers in Baton Rouge
pIX age 10 moved to Destin FL
pXI high school friend Taylor Haugen dies of football game injury
pXII Florida State University, "party school"
pXIII pregnant at 19, summer before sophomore year
pXIV Son Brodie 2012/12/24
pXIV nursing degree 2015?, immediate care nurse, then nursing home, then hospice ca. 2017

p022 Ch2: Carl (2017?) congestive heart failure, in his 80s
p023 wife Mary pediatric nurse
p026 Hadley mentions boyfriend Chris, physical therapist, Greek/Japanese heritage
p029 patient Ms. Morgan connives visit to Chris with Hadley
p030 Carl tells Hadley about Usain Bolt
p032 Carl out of bed, playing hide and seek with 2yo daughter Anna, who drowned years ago
p035 the surge of energy everyone gets before they die
p038 Carl time of death 4:47am

p041 Ch3: Sue
p045 Ms. Sue reels off information for chart
p046 "can you fold laundry worth shit?"
p048 Wheezing, pulseox 87% "not too bad"
p049 taught "always treat" ... except hospice
p055 stale bread, Sue Great Depression, never wasted food
p056 flashback to learning of pregnancy
p059 in church Father Tom skips sermon, says God told him to say "You need to give up your ideal life ... and have this baby.
p062 Sue reconnects with best friend of long ago
p065 Father Tom arrives, prays with Sue and Hadley
p068 Sue dies, Hadley not called because "Dad told Sue that Hadley couldn't handle it"
p069 Hadley mentioned in obituary, only happened twice more

p070 Ch4: Sandra
p071 Sandra 50yo female with breast cancer, chemotherapy, metastases ... Tesla ... husband George
p075 Flashback: Chris' mother Babette with glioblastoma, age 55
p079 Flashback: Nurse is Theresa, who trained Hadley ... and now seemed uncaring
p085 Sandra's daughter arrives at door - Hadley "Come here right now!", holds Sandra's hand while she took last breath

p106 Ch6: Edith (husband John)
p108 Alzheimer's levels: 5 Moderate Dementia, 6 Moderately Severe, 7 Severe (no words)
p117 "She thinks the bedroom is on fire"
p126 pressure ulcer from not being turned.
p127 actually Kennedy ulcer skin organ shutting down
p132 bedroom caught on fire a few months later

p134 Ch7: Reggie
p136 Hadley's father says a real nurse saves lives
p138 Reggie 58yo with end-stage liver disease (alcohol)
p141 partner Lisa
p141 Reggie ascites "bloated stomach" (fluid in abdomen), sign of liver cancer
p146 Chris proposes to Hadley
p150 Regie says it is 1977, and he is in Mexia, Texas with his parents and Grandmother
p158 Hadley learns that Lisa suicided after she left

p160 Ch8: Lily
p162 Therapist: "You didn't have a healthy example of how to have a disagreement within a romantic relationship, right?"
p163 Therapist next session: "We're going to discuss the suicide today"
p164 two nurses unexpected leave
p172 Allison brought dying friend Lily south from Georgia, last trip to condo on beach.
p172 Allison opens balcony for ocean breeze, puts bowl of beach sand under Lily's feet. "Lil - you made it to the beach"
p173 Hadley calls old friend "Will you be my bridesmaid?" Hannah "Of course!"

p174 Ch9: Babette
p176 Chooses 3 months to wedding (typical planning takes a year???)
p177 Babette chooses mother-son dance song "Good Riddance" by Green Day
p180 Babette's 16yo terrier Holly suddenly sick, vet euthanizes dog, cremated
p181 On beach with her family, Babette flings ashes into wind, ashes blow all over family
p182 Babette: "Holly will always be in our hearts." Chris: "Yeah, and in our lungs."
p182 Category Five Hurricane Michael evacuate to Mississippi, return for patients
- 1962 Columbus Day Storm Category 3-equivalent 115mph 948 millibars
p184 landfall Mexico Beach 70 miles WSW
p186 Babette to hospital, Divert to Fort Walton Beach Medical Center 12 Mi northwest
p188 Chris is there, youngest son calls in, Babette passes, Hadley felt like failure for harsh surroundings not as planned

p191 Ch10: Albert
p196-199 angry memories of judgmental medical office workers during Hadley's pregnancy
p199 Homeless patient under East Creek Bridge?
p201 Al diabetic, infected foot
p220 Al sees mother
p222 Delayed, accident on road ahead (could have been her, she thinks)
p224 Al had bad feeling about Hadley in car wreck (I suppose a Hadley is needed to connect these dots ...)

p225 Ch11: Frank
p226 new assignment, hospice consultations (explaining hospice to patients0
p227 patient Frank and (wife?) Cheryl
p228 just under 65, no medicare
p230 head and neck cancer
p232 Frank: "maybe you could write a book someday"
p235 re visitations: "We'll find out for ourselves one day"
p237 Will: "She (mother) died alone. This is my way of making things right: not letting anyone else die alone"
p238 "only one of every four hospice nurses makes it beyond five years, from what I've heard."
- my guess: probably half don't make it beyond the first paycheck, so it's one of two at five years.

p239 Ch12: Adam
p239 "I'm not caring for brain cancer patients" vow after Babette
p240 Patient Adam in emergency room six, same as Babette
p246 Officious nursing floor manager thwarted
p246 wife Jillan gets in bed with Adam, sang "Hallelujah"
p247 Chris regards Babette's not-at-home death; he was present because "everything happens for a reason"

p249 Conclusion
p249 the people who are happiest at the end of their life are those who have achieved a sense of peace in regard to how they've lived, and ... comfortable ... about what comes next
p249 "everyone dies the same way"