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The In Between

Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments

Hadley Vlahos RN 2023 West Slope Lib. 616.029 VLAHOS

Vlahos interview, 31yo 2023/12/12

• pVIII Episcopalian Baton Rouge, parents funeral directors and licensed embalmers in Baton Rouge

• pIX age 10 moved to Destin FL

• pXI high school friend Taylor Haugen dies of football game injury

• pXII Florida State University, "party school"
• pXIII pregnant at 19, summer before sophomore year
• pXIV Son Brodie 2012/12/24
• pXIV nursing degree 2015?, immediate care nurse, then nursing home, then hospice ca. 2017

• p003 Ch1: Glenda (2016?)
• p007 Glenda talking to deceased sister
• p008 Continuous care (hospice nurse 24h)
• p009 "she isn't hallucinating, she is crossing over"
• p011 "My daughter thinks I'm crazy"
• p019 Glenda comatose
• p021 Time of death 8:42am - chandelier burns out with a pop

• p022 Ch2: Carl (2017?) congestive heart failure, in his 80s
• p023 wife Mary pediatric nurse

• p026 Hadley mentions boyfriend Chris, physical therapist, Greek/Japanese heritage

• p029 patient Ms. Morgan connives visit to Chris with Hadley
• p030 Carl tells Hadley about Usain Bolt
• p032 Carl out of bed, playing hide and seek with 2yo daughter Anna, who drowned years ago

• p035 the surge of energy everyone gets before they die

• p038 Carl time of death 4:47am

• p041 Ch3: Sue
• p045 Ms. Sue reels off information for chart
• p046 "can you fold laundry worth shit?"
• p048 Wheezing, pulseox 87% "not too bad"
• p049 taught "always treat" ... except hospice
• p055 stale bread, Sue Great Depression, never wasted food
• p056 flashback to learning of pregnancy
• p059 in church Father Tom skips sermon, says God told him to say "You need to give up your ideal life ... and have this baby.
• p062 Sue reconnects with best friend of long ago
• p065 Father Tom arrives, prays with Sue and Hadley
• p068 Sue dies, Hadley not called because "Dad told Sue that Hadley couldn't handle it"
• p069 Hadley mentioned in obituary, only happened twice more

• p070 Ch4: Sandra
• p071 Sandra 50yo female with breast cancer, chemotherapy, metastases ... Tesla ... husband George
• p075 Flashback: Chris' mother Babette with glioblastoma, age 55
• p079 Flashback: Nurse is Theresa, who trained Hadley ... and now seemed uncaring
• p085 Sandra's daughter arrives at door - Hadley "Come here right now!", holds Sandra's hand while she took last breath

• p087 Ch5: Elizabeth 40yo nonsmoker with lung cancer, used to teach yoga
• p090 Flashback; anorexia, Teacher Ms. Lopez helps with sun while Hadley studies
• p097 Elizabeth also was anorexic, says "Eat the cake"
• p099 Hadley eats Christmas cheesecake

• p106 Ch6: Edith (husband John)
• p108 Alzheimer's levels: 5 Moderate Dementia, 6 Moderately Severe, 7 Severe (no words)
• p117 "She thinks the bedroom is on fire"

• p126 pressure ulcer from not being turned.

• p127 actually Kennedy ulcer skin organ shutting down

• p132 bedroom caught on fire a few months later

• p134 Ch7: Reggie
• p136 Hadley's father says a real nurse saves lives
• p138 Reggie 58yo with end-stage liver disease (alcohol)
• p141 partner Lisa

• p141 Reggie ascites "bloated stomach" (fluid in abdomen), sign of liver cancer

• p146 Chris proposes to Hadley

• p150 Regie says it is 1977, and he is in Mexia, Texas with his parents and Grandmother

• p158 Hadley learns that Lisa suicided after she left

• p160 Ch8: Lily
• p162 Therapist: "You didn't have a healthy example of how to have a disagreement within a romantic relationship, right?"
• p163 Therapist next session: "We're going to discuss the suicide today"
• p164 two nurses unexpected leave
• p172 Allison brought dying friend Lily south from Georgia, last trip to condo on beach.
• p172 Allison opens balcony for ocean breeze, puts bowl of beach sand under Lily's feet. "Lil - you made it to the beach"
• p173 Hadley calls old friend "Will you be my bridesmaid?" Hannah "Of course!"

• p174 Ch9: Babette

• p176 Chooses 3 months to wedding (typical planning takes a year???)

• p177 Babette chooses mother-son dance song "Good Riddance" by Green Day

• p180 Babette's 16yo terrier Holly suddenly sick, vet euthanizes dog, cremated
• p181 On beach with her family, Babette flings ashes into wind, ashes blow all over family
• p182 Babette: "Holly will always be in our hearts." Chris: "Yeah, and in our lungs."

• p182 Category Five Hurricane Michael evacuate to Mississippi, return for patients

  • Category 3-equivalent 115mph 948 millibars

• p183 landfall Mexico Beach 70 miles WSW

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• p225 Ch11: Frank
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• p238 Ch12: Adam
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• p249 Conclusion
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